In the work place, if you do wrong, fail to listen or break the rules the usual outcome is an immediate consequence... you lose priviledges, get restricted, or maybe even get fired. If you've ever been hit for doing wrong, your friends and collegues would gather around you with a lot to say... talk to the union, report it to the police, sue.
But when it comes to children and they do wrong, fail to listen or break the rules... they get hit, tapped, spanked. You tell your friends about it and get a lot of identification, "children are frustrating", "I do the same when mine doesn't listen", "persevere they will learn"...
You're more likely to get comfort and support for hitting your child than hitting an adult. But why?
A child is small, vulnerable, doesn't understand the fullness of actions and consequences, doesn't understand the connection between their actions and feelings and other people, is still forming their view, their base for knowing wrong and right and all the why's. They are still learning.
Who is more in need of understanding, to be reacted to with wisdom and experience, to be viewed as a pupil learning from a teacher... even when its annoying and inconvenient. Who more benefits from immediate and proportionately relevant consequences than someone who is still learning?
So, I ask: Is spanking society's acceptable abuse?
But when it comes to children and they do wrong, fail to listen or break the rules... they get hit, tapped, spanked. You tell your friends about it and get a lot of identification, "children are frustrating", "I do the same when mine doesn't listen", "persevere they will learn"...
You're more likely to get comfort and support for hitting your child than hitting an adult. But why?
A child is small, vulnerable, doesn't understand the fullness of actions and consequences, doesn't understand the connection between their actions and feelings and other people, is still forming their view, their base for knowing wrong and right and all the why's. They are still learning.
Who is more in need of understanding, to be reacted to with wisdom and experience, to be viewed as a pupil learning from a teacher... even when its annoying and inconvenient. Who more benefits from immediate and proportionately relevant consequences than someone who is still learning?
So, I ask: Is spanking society's acceptable abuse?
Be careful the lessons that you teach your children are the lessons that you want them to learn.
If you'd like to read more about not spanking, here is a link to another well written blog that covers it so well.
Christian Child Discipline: Is spanking biblical ?(no!)
Christian Child Discipline: Is spanking biblical ?(no!)
